Dr Pauline Rennie-Peyton
Integrative psychotherapist and chartered psychologist Msc. AFBPsS
What to do if you are a bully at work
- Remember that bullying is about the impact it has and not your intention
- Don't try and justify it to yourself - nobody deserves to be bullied
- Your colleagues are not responsible for what has happened to you
- Get help in changing your behaviour immediately
- Ask to be sent on a management training course
- If you are not sure how your behaviour is received by others - ask them
- Seek counselling or professional development
- Berating yourself isn't going to help unless you also stop the bullying
- Don't be afraid to ask for help, this takes more courage than carrying on
- Some behaviours that may once have been acceptable are no longer
- Policies and mission statements apply to all members of staff equally
How not to be a bully at work
- Treat everyone no matter what their age, sex or status with respect
- Don't collude in inappropriate behaviours of others and don't gossip
- Leave your personal problems at home / don't take them out on others
- Do take responsibility for your own actions
- Accept feedback that is both true and unpalatable with good grace
- Don't take part in nick-naming and stereotyping your colleagues - and make every effort to obliterate that culture throughout the organization
- Remember that we are all capable of bullying other people
For an initial confidential discussion please contact Pauline Rennie Peyton.